Ted’s essays

dog stress management techniques

I have been ‘a dog guy’ my entire life. They and I understand each other. Some call it “Being able to speak Dog”. As with human-to-human interaction that actually means more listening than speaking. Thus, when the article below arrived in my e-mail, I recognize its truths. Dogs fully live in the moment without fretting over past or future. Most excell at relaxation, but apply extreme vigor to their exercise periods. This applies far more to confident dogs, who are usually larger than average. Those are the ones I am attracted to. Among the top dogs in my history for that was Opie, my 125-pound Newfoundland runt who is responsible for my interest in Mastiff relatives. Beagle Brain, our […]

banashing bad dreams

Occasionally I will have dreams several nights in a row where my life is in extreme danger but the firearm I have does not match the ammunition available, I am unable to deploy not-quite available guns, am grossly out-gunned or some other failing. These dreams stop coming as soon as I take some time during the day, go to a range, and do some shooting … handgun, shotgun, rifle … what I shoot doesn’t seem to matter. Defenseless dreams disappear. Recently my wife and I seeemed to be on a streak of unpleasant dreams that did not involve shooting. They just weren’t good interpersonally or physically, and left us lying awake for longer than sweet dreams would have. Even the […]

being 17 again for an hour

Years before I entered high school, my dad began teaching me the game he LOVED and excelled at. I entered a high school of 3,000 baby boomers (and graduated) as a distinctly small boy of 5’2″, 98 pounds, but was the 3rd best tennis player on the team all three of my high school years. I was the only one who could beat the coach because the better players followed the muscle-bound pin-head’s instructions while I was not so predictable. Tennis is a fast-paced, thinking, strategy game with an athletic skill set thrown in. I enjoyed the game then, but only found tennis partners once or twice after that. The last five years has found me teaching quite a few […]

crusty old brains

With few exceptions, muffler bearing wrenches and lumber stretchers come to mind, tools have both suitable and unsuitable applications. As one saying goes, “If your only tool is a hammer, every job looks like a nail”. The converse of that is even more common where the wrench or whatever else is at hand becomes the hammer you need at the moment. The typical seventy-year-old brain is like that, another tool with good and poor uses. While there are significant variations, the old guys have seen a lot of successes and failures, learning from most of them what works in the long run contrasted with what definitely does not. On the other hand, our minds and bodies are more brittle. […]

take a step back

A touch of the philosophical is good for the brain. I share this here so I may come back and ponder it from time to time. So far I keep up with the thoughts until the last few lines. I think I need to work it over until I either understand or reject that last bit. The link, by the way, takes you to one of the next-generation social media platforms that have evolved in response to the dark-forces takeover and evil application of the more popular ones. We were hoping the geeks would recognize the problem and use their specialties in creation of alternatives. They have. Now we just have to migrate to them. – Ted Live in Truth, […]

comfortable solitude

I gave it no thought while living it, but realize today just how unique I was growing up. I spent A LOT of time alone without being “a loner”. I graduated high school standing 5’2, weighing 98 pounds without ever feeling small. I spent countless days wandering the adjacent woods. Occasionally my neighborhood friends would wander with me. Most often it was just me and the dog. I played individual sports, team sports, yet could spend hours alone shooting hoops or pounding tennis balls against the wall. I decided I wanted to pitch for our little league team. I built a wooden strike zone target and spent hours, days, weeks by myself throwing baseballs through each corner of it. Of […]

connected with the cosmos

I have published several articles here regarding the function of the hair growing out of our heads (search this site for “hair”). There is more to it than most understand. History is replete with examples of warriors losing powers when shorn, or retaining inexplicable senses with their long hair. We long-hairs cannot quantify differences nor can short-hairs know what they are missing. A few days ago one of those unaccountable things happened to me. I felt an urgent need to take both dogs for an off-leash walk up the road; something I NEVER DO. I tried to rationalize the urge away, but then let it take me to the far side of the road (because the off-leash dogs went there) […]

figuring people out

We tend to consider people in our immediate world through the lense of who we are, what we feel and how we act. Surely everybody is kind-of like we are. Sometimes, however, you find yourself dealing with someone who just isn’t doing what you expect, or reacting in ways that don’t make sense to you. That is probably time to consider they really are not so much like you are. Here is a little review of what psychologists today call “Antisocial Personality Disorder – APD.” ——————————————– Both sociopaths and psychopaths have a pervasive pattern of disregard for the safety and rights of others. Deceit and manipulation are central features to both types of personality. Contrary to popular belief, a psychopath […]

shell people

A granddaughter moved in with us after failing to thrive in The Big City. We were close to her Mom’s last hope. It was going well, we thought, but were recently smacked upside the head that our great little community and wonderful resources were not enough. We involved adults were of the same mind, landing like a ton of bricks on this ungrateful truant. The girl’s world was shrinking and tightening incrementally as previous sanctions failed to deliver desired results. In retrospect: If what you are doing is not working, “do more of it” is not really the greatest plan. But that is where we were headed. Until a couple of wonderful Darby resources turned a light bulb on in […]

Think your weight loss program is behind?

The failure to achieve our desired weight/fitness goals can be debilitating. I have known some who simply gave up. Mobility, vigor, physical competence were all beyond their reach … ever. They just gave up. Well few of you have as far to go as Kasey King. Look at your situation and imagine that you started losing weight at 700 pounds and are already half-way to healthy. Or give up and head towards matching him. I turned a corner when faced with switching my entire wardrobe to XL. NO! Where does that stop? I revolted prior to becoming revolting… dropped from 220 to 180. Still 10 or more over ideal, but close enough to remain active at my advanced age. I […]

heal thyself

I have been pushing the old body pretty hard in anticipation of this day. While I know it officially begins with the Winter Solstice on Friday, December 21, 2018, my activities shift to winter mode when the ground becomes frozen and unworkable. Today, November 30th is that day. While Intellicast.com and the National Weather Service are often incorrect, I’m not betting against this particular prognostication. It feels about right to me. Game over for new construction, yard improvements and anything that involves moving dirt. Temperatures consistently below freezing also make outdoor work a lot less fun and inspire me to limit my hours outside protective shelters. This day where I shift from outdoor to indoor modes came a little later […]

ALERT: It is worse than hot out there

Many of us have noticed that the sun seems intense this summer. A friend who works outdoors says he actually feels the sun abnormally burning, boring-into his skin. Another friend called yesterday reporting that their sophisticated photographic hobby drone refused to fly. It reported that: the electromagnetic field was too intense for the drone’s controls to operate. That took him to the Internet for investigation. Which, in turn, set him contacting friends to warn them about this intensity spike in solar energy reaching us. The Environmental Protection Agency publishes maps quantifying the intensity of sun rays striking our Earth. Reportedly, some places in Arizona and New Mexico are currently in a streak of unprecedented ratings of 14! The two maps […]